“A wise man makes his own decisions; an ignorant man follows public opinion.” – Chinese Proverb
I love the show Sex and the City and I’m not ashamed to admit it. To the men reading this, hear me out. I have a point. In particular, I love the scenes where the women are having brunch and hashing out their latest problems. I tend to be a problem-hasher-outer.
When faced with a big decision, I generally turn to my family, close friends, colleagues, randoms on the street – you name it. Getting as many opinions as possible can only be a good thing, a helpful thing, right?
Not necessarily. I’m now in problem-hasher-outer therapy, so to speak.
If you feel the need to get as many opinions as possible before making a big change, it’s important to analyze your motivations. Are you seeking validation? Do you feel you don’t know your own self and what’s best for you?
I’m not disputing the fact that friends and family can be a great help when faced with a tough choice, but a friend of mine raised a great point the other night: once you have too many outside voices in your head, it can be tough to identify your own.
Only you have to live your life. You have to be okay with the decisions you’re making. I’ve had the greatest moments of clarity when I ask myself, “If no one else’s opinion mattered, truly, then what would I do?” The answer usually screams out pretty loud and clear.
So before making a major decision, take the time to quietly listen to your own opinion before asking for others’ input. Respect your ability to make smart choices for your life.
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